Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Reminiscing with Girl's Night Out Pictures!

Good news! I finally got the pictures of the Girl's Night Out event from last semester! You can read about the amazing things God did that night on another post, here.

As you can see above, the room was packed out with about 550 college women wanting to know more about God! We're going to have to find a bigger venue for next years event!

 Marian came and spoke about her first book, Sex and the City Uncovered, which uncovers the lie that satisfaction can be found in sex, relationships, and materialism. Marian then shared the truth that only a relationship with Jesus Christ can satisfy the deepest needs of our heart. Praise the Lord, 105 women indicated that they began a relationship with Jesus that night!

The night started off with a hilarious game- the most awkward date stories! The winner received a gift certificate to get her nails done. Hopefully it made her awkward date experience worth it.

Afterwards, Marian signed books and took pictures with all of these lovely ladies! 

Many hugs were given and many prayers were prayed!

I just love this picture! Rebecca, on the right, was my sweet roommate and fellow intern when I was in Texas working for Redeemed Girl Ministries last summer. The girl on the left is my amazing friend Blake! Blake shared her testimony of God's loving redemption in her life. So many girls' hearts were affected by hearing Blake's story and I'm so grateful for her! Marian Jordan, is the founder of RGM, you can check out the website at! I'm so thankful for the amazing things God did last semester, especially through the Girl's Night Out event!

I also want to give a shout out to our wonderful photographer, Ella Salley! She's so talented. Thanks for the great pictures, Ella!!

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The worst love advice I've ever gotten...

So, with Valentine's Day approaching, the amount of terrible relationship advice that I've overheard or seen online has been horrendous. It got me thinking about the amount of crappy love advice I've received over the years. Granted, it was advice given by well-meaning friends and family that care about me, but it never worked out well for me.

Disclaimer: At one point I followed and agreed with these opinions and even recommended this advice to others.  I'm now viewing this so-called "wisdom" from a biblical view of love and relationships, so if you disagree with me, I'm sorry.

So, below are the top 5 pieces of advice I've been given that now make me cringe.... and what I wish someone had told me instead. 

1. Do what makes you happy. 
"You DESERVE to be happy." No. Actually, you don't. You're a sinner, separated from a perfect God and apart from a relationship with Jesus, you deserve the wages of your sin, which is death. Harsh, I know, but its true. Fortunately, God has given us the gift of having our sins wiped clean by Jesus! But even as Christians we don't deserve happiness. I am not entitled to happiness. There is definitely an unshakable joy that comes from knowing Jesus, but joy doesn't always mean happiness. Every blessing, every moment that you're happy is a gift from God. So my point is, real love isn't about your happiness. It's about the other person's happiness, and ultimately its about honoring God with your relationship.

2. If you can't get someone off your mind, they are probably supposed to be there. 
False, you probably just have a creepy obsession or are in the infatuation stage of your relationship. Don't worry, it happens to most of us girls. It will pass and soon enough there will be someone else on your mind 24/7. 

3. It's good for there to be jealousy in a relationship. 
Ehh, probably not a good indicator of a healthy relationship. Jealousy is generally an indicator of insecurity and control issues. Yes, it shows that you care about the person, but it usually shows that you care about the person in a selfish way. I know that I only get jealous when I'm making another person my idol. I'm letting that person be my security, so when that security is threatened I get jealous. When they aren't giving me the attention I need, I get jealous. My security and identity should be in Jesus alone. He is the only one who will never fail me. 

4. Time heals broken hearts. 
No, God heals broken hearts. God can use time to heal, but ultimately time itself doesn't heal anything, it just dulls the ache. I wish someone had told me that in high school. I just kept trying out all the wrong answers, waiting for time to pass. The answer for your broken heart isn't more time, the answer is putting your faith, hope, and trust in Jesus to be your everything. 

and of course we can't forget the most common advice ever...

5. Follow your heart. (Thanks Disney) 
Actually... don't follow your heart. "The heart is deceitful above all things" (Jeremiah 17:9) is one of my favorite verses because it's so true. My emotions, my heart; it is so fleeting. One minute its telling me one thing, the next its telling me something completely different. Basing decisions solely off of emotions is unwise. Your emotions are not truth. (I have to constantly remind myself of this). They are abstract and constantly changing. Don't trust them by themselves. Use some logic and godly wisdom as well. Save yourself the heartache and follow Jesus instead of your heart.

This is the advice that I wish I'd been given in the past. Honestly, it probably was given to me from my family that loves the Lord, but I didn't want to listen. Today, I'm grateful for God's deep, unfailing, perfect love. I'm going to meditate on this verse today...

And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:17-19)

I am so grateful for the women in my life who love the Lord and constantly give me godly wisdom when I'm tempted to listen to the wisdom of the world. Thanks for helping me figure out this thing called LOVE. I love y'all. 

Happy Valentine's Day! :) 

Sunday, February 12, 2012


       I've been pondering how God uses difficult circumstances to make us stronger and the meaning of strength. I used to think strength meant hiding. I used to think it meant putting on a happy face when you wanted to cry and bracing yourself for the worst. I used to have so much pride in the fact that I was "strong," that I had made it through hard times and come out "stronger." Now, looking back I'm able to see that I had it all wrong. My version of strength was really just hardness and bitterness masquerading as strength.

Isaiah 41:10 says  Fear not, for I am with you;  be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you,  I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

       True strength is a gift from God. When you know Him and choose to trust Him in the hard times, leaning wholly on Him. Being strong means being vulnerable, not putting up walls. Being vulnerable is the polar opposite of pride. Pride means pretending you have it all together. Vulnerability means being honest about your messy, sinful self. I thought being strong meant holding myself together, but now I realize it means being broken before God and letting Him hold me together. I'm still a sinful mess, but Jesus picks up the gross, broken pieces and puts them back into place. 

     Strength comes from Jesus. I'm so thankful that my God loved me enough to rescue and redeem me. I'm thankful for my brokenness, because when I am weak, He is strong.